Marriage rates on the decline, but not for good

We see marriage depicted everywhere from television to early childhood fairytales. It is the  union between two people who become partners in a personal relationship. This union is often looked at as sacred and has been heavily incorporated during the development of the United States. Yet only 50 percent of U.S. adults today are married compared to 72 percent in the 1960s, according to the Pew Research Center. I think it is safe to say that marriage is not valued as highly as it was back in the day.

I am not surprised with the lower number of Americans that are married today. It is often looked at as a shock to some when someone says they want to get married and grow old with one person for the rest of their lives, because we live in a generation of confusion and distractions.

Confusion strikes because many think it is okay to live in broken homes, create a child, support the kid separated and then often move on to another person

Distractions occur because of the mass use of social media. Social media creates the image that there are plenty of fish in the sea — actually, way too many fish in the sea. Therefore, loyalty is lost and people often think they can talk and flirt with multiple people in case things fail with another.

Social media was not an issue when most of our parents had us. Being born to an African parent, I grew up in a two-parent home that valued the core concept of love and unity. My mother did not have to worry about my dad texting multiple women and social media was not present at the time. They have been married for 27 years.

“Fifty-four percent of white adults ages 18 and older are married. This is lower than the share of Asians who were married, 61 percent, but significantly higher than the share of Hispanics, 46 percent, or blacks, 30 percent,” according to the Pew Research Center in 2015.

Some minorities appear to have the lowest percent of marriages. Yet, my parent’s union withstands the labels and this is most likely due to their cultural upbringing and values they were taught back home in Ghana.

Love just seems to be lost in this generation. Everyone wants to act like they do not care about anything. Everyone wants to act unbothered. Everyone wants to act like the tough guy, so they refuse to let someone in.

On the other hand, some people just value their independence and feel they do not need a significant other to enter their life. But at the end of the day, it is okay to be loved.

Others say they just have not met the right one yet.

“About six-in-ten say that a major reason they are not married is that they haven’t found the right person,” according to  the Pew Research Center.

That is totally understandable, but perhaps they have stopped looking or just have been looking in the wrong place. The world population is approximately 7.5 billion people. I am almost certain there is someone out there for everyone.

When all is said and done, we are the writers of our own future. We happen to be in a generation that values independence. People do not want to rely on another person for love. Some people want to explore and enjoy their lives before they settle down and some just do not believe in marriage or the “right one”.

Marriage was definitely more valued back in the day compared to now. However, we can definitely change the tides if our heart desires. Let love reign America once again.