Just the Tips answers all your questions

Janelle Carlson, Staff Writer

Question: What is a “sex drive” exactly?

Answer: In short, a sex drive is a person’s libido, or their desire for sexual activity and contact. A sex drive is not static and various aspects of someone’s life can affect and change it. Biological, emotional and social elements all can have an affect on a libido. For instance, a particularly stressed individual can encounter a very low sex drive and not want to engage in sexual activity for a period of time due to the effects of stress on their body. It is all relative and individual where your sex drive is at during parts of your life.

Q: Any tips for fingering a person with a vulva?

A: Since everyone enjoys different things when it comes to their sexual desires, ReproCo cannot truly tell you what you should and shouldn’t do while fingering a vulva-friend, however, we will try to offer up some “universal tips” that may help for your next handsy visit.

·      Do not imagine fingering as substituting a penis with your finger. Two different ballparks, two different sensations and things to focus on.

·      Focus on the external areas of the vagina (clitoris). Most vaginal orgasms are not reached through penetration alone.

·      Have a steady rhythm with your hand movements. Do not go at a clitoris like you’re trying to rub a stain off it.

Q: Do antibiotics really make birth control not work?

A: This is a very important question, mostly due to the popular myth surrounding antibiotic and birth control pill usage. After doing some research on a few reputable sites such as Bedsider, Planned Parenthood and Mayo Clinic, it is apparent that the effects of antibiotics on the pill is a bit over stated. Most commonly prescribed antibiotics will not make the pill any less effective. The only antibiotic that has had a number of studies show a negative effect on the pill is rifampin, which is used to treat tuberculosis.

Q: How do I give a good ‘BJ’?

A: First of all, giving a “good BJ” is completely arbitrary. As stated in our earlier question, we cannot ascertain what is pleasurable and what is not for specific individuals. All we can do is give very general “tips” and let you busy bees explore and find out what you and your partners like for yourselves!

·      Take your time. Slow and steady wins the race; fast and furious leaves you potentially choking on your own spit.

·      Utilize both hands! Working the shaft with your hand allows for more mouth work near the tip (the more sensitive area of the penis). Testicles are there for playtime too!

·      You do not have to deep throat! That is a skill porn stars make careers on, not a universal talent everyone can achieve instantly. If you can (and want to), go as deep as you want! If this is difficult, see Tip #2 and focus on utilizing your hands for more coverage.

Q: I ran out of lubricant and want to know if there are any alternatives I can use when the store is closed and there’s no one to turn to?

A: Great question, because lubricant is oh so important and underrated! First off, let’s start with the basics. Most lubricants are water, silicone or oil based. Water based are fairly common because of their easy clean up and they are safe to use with sex toys and condoms. However, they dry up fairly easily. Silicone based lubes cannot be used with silicone sex toys, but can be used with condoms. Oil based lubricants should NOT be used with latex condoms. The oil breaks down the latex, so any usage of the oil based lubes should be during solo play. Always make sure before using anything as lubricant that you test it on a small area of your sensitive skin first. Now, for alternatives within these categories we suggest:

·     Good old fashioned saliva (seriously, lube hasn’t been around for that long)

·     Water

·     One hundred percent aloe vera (be sure to check your bottles first. If they say “for external use only,” do not put it inside of you. 100% natural aloe does amazing things for your body, and some lubricant companies are even making aloe based lube now)

·      Baby oil (not for use with condoms)

·      Petroleum jelly/Vaseline (not for use with condoms)